I heard you’re the sibling to a child with special needs, and I wanted to write you a letter explaining why you have a one-up on life. I know your life might seem hard or different from your friends, but trust me, you will most definitely be more prepared for life than of your friends.
Everyday you see love your parents have for your special sibling, and it’s being embedded into your heart. You see the patience they exhibit when caring for him or her, and it’s being buried into your soul. You see that your parents never stop trying to get what your sibling needs, and it’s being ingrained into your mind. You see your parents exhaust themselves so your sibling and you are well taken care of, and you’re learning from this. You may not know it, but all of these little things are teaching you traits of how to be an amazing person.
I’m certain that being the sibling to a child with different needs is a struggle. I know you have those moments where your heart strings with confusion about how others talk and view your special sibling the person you love with every ounce in your body. When you can sleep at night because you are worried about their future. I know you have those moments when you get mad and frustrated because you can’t fix their problem no matter how much you want to. All of those times are totally understandable. You have a right to be upset every now and then. But you have to look at all the blessing they have provided you with. How about when you get to see your sibling reach a milestone and get that proud feeling that overcomes your body? You get to experience a friendship like no other. Your sibling completely and utterly trusts and loves you with a love that can penetrated. They look at you with those beautiful eyes and know you’re there for them no matter what. The bond you guys have is indescribable. You’re their sibling, their friend and their protector. Your sibling might not speak verbally, but we both know your hearts together carry on conversations us adults could never possibly understand.
And I tell you what, That you parents see everything you do for your brother or sister. Your parents recognize every time you go out of your way to help your sibling. You do such an amazing job helping your parents. It surely takes a wonderful boy or girl to do what you do on a daily basis. I’m sure they tell you thank you, but sometimes if they don’t just know they are beyond thankful for you. Every once in awhile remind your parents how grateful for all they do for you and your sibling, I know sometimes they will frustrate you and you might snap. Just take a deep breath and remember that are working twice as work to create the best life for your sibling.
But most important of all, my dear one, the reason you are going to rock this life: You know true love, you know true heartache, and you know what’s truly important . You have lived a life that takes a strong heart and a strong mind. You will mature much faster than your classmates, you’ll exhibit compassion that astounds others, and you will most definitely have a wicked sense of humor that will enable you to keep life joyful no matter what. When you were introduced to your sibling with complex needs for the first time, that moment in time is pinned in the stars, for it was then that your destiny was determined. You will be an awesome human being and you’re going to change lives for the better… all because you were the sibling of a child with special needs.